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Emotional Shutdown

Getting in Touch With Your Feelings

Out of your head, into your body.

Everything seems to be going very well in life, except for one thing: dealing with feelings. And that secretly turns out to be quite an obstacle. Sometimes because your head is overflowing, or because you get stuck in relationships and contact with others. Many people come along with the question to get out of their head, or to build better contact with feelings.

Treatment

We often know it cognitively, but that doesn’t change anything.

The power of an advanced VortexHealingŸ Energy Healing treatment makes it possible to break through the roots of patterns. At the same time it brings you into your body and center (beyond cognition).

The healing reveals why feelings are blocked, how this is maintained, and what can be addressed per session. This allows us to relieve the most important themes in a focussed and careful manner. This is done flexibly; for example, if old pain or trauma/abuse is an important factor, that processing is included in the session.

Once you are ready, you can notice feelings that precede the thought storm and hold your attention more deeply with feelings.

Effect

Connecting with your own feelings makes you more open, accessible, spontaneous, relaxed, cheerful, creative, free and authentic. It also becomes easier to assertively set boundaries.

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Why Do We Shut Down Feelings?

There are several reasons why we close off our feelings. Usually, deep inside, there is a lot of emotional pain hidden. This is subtly and skillfully avoided - because that protection has also been helpful.

With intense experiences (trauma and PTSD) it is very normal to shut down feelings as protection. Unfortunately, you cannot turn off difficult emotions separately; you then turn off everything. That makes you susceptible to depression and gloom.

In addition, it can be partly a predisposition, or combined with ‘difficult parents’. A pain like “you were not there for me”, becomes “the world is not there for me”. Then you do everything yourself, but lonely alone. Because letting people really close, reminds you of painful experiences. Entering into intimate relationships sometimes also requires small dosed steps.

There may also be an avoidant attachment style or tendency to be extremely controlling. An underlying belief becomes: “I’m okay, and you’re not“. No wonder that forming relationships is difficult, even if you want to.

What Often Happens


Earlier:

  • You faced a lot of criticism and rejection.
  • You had difficult / controlling / cold / emotionally absent parents.
  • You often had to fend for yourself.
  • You had to “never give up”, “don’t be so dramatic”, and “be big and strong”.

Now:

  • You like to be in control.
  • You are hyper-independent.
  • You get a lot done.
  • You rarely ask for help.
  • You prefer to do everything yourself rather than leave it to others.
  • You think “there is nothing wrong with you”.
  • You are very critical of yourself (everything has to be perfect).
  • You have built a wall against a painful outside world.
  • You numb discomfort with pleasure (sweets, binge-watching, smoking, drugs, porn).
  • Sometimes you just want to slam the door and let everyone “figure it out”.

In relationships:

  • You cry rarely, or suddenly very intensely.
  • You are hard to reach for the outside world.
  • You find it difficult to deal with feelings (of others).
  • You notice that you sometimes react coldly / withdrawn.

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